BEWARE

by Milly
(UK)

Having read Lillian's story I feel I should tell all the gals seeking a relationship/marriage to be very wary of the pathological liar / fantasist.

If he (or come to that, she) is telling you a story and you feel it doesn't sound right, it probably isn't.

Watch the body language, especially where the left hand goes.

If the left hand is placed at the back of his/her head with a patting motion, then a lie is being spoken. Also, if the right arm is moved across the body with the hand plucking at the left arm - another lie is being told.

If challenged the liar will shuffle their feet or fidget if sitting down. The fantasist, and I hope you never come across one, is very clever at judging the knowledge or lack of a subject before they start their bragging, this can be their well paid job, a top rank in the Military for instance, wealthy parents etc - absolutely endless.

They have the need to feel important, more intelligent than you, will not like to be questioned and will change the subject or, will not answer the question but say 'why are you asking' which changes the subject somewhat. They are spiteful, vindictive, possessive and they have a real need to be in control.

Confrontation doesn't work because punishment follows - in my case not physical harm but things would disappear or get broken, cherished photos torn up.

You name it he did it.

How do I know all this. I was married to one for 43 years and I did not learn the truth until he died - yes, someone phoned me and told me and I was so shocked that it took 12 months to get over it.

The truth always comes out and it is just a matter of WHEN and HOW. In my case it took 43 years and one phone call from Canada.

Take care girls.