Appearances can be Deceptive

by Dana
(Hamilton, Ontario)

I guess the night started off pretty typical for a first date.

I met up with (Peter) that Saturday evening at a local diner/bar in our area at about 8pm. It was a blind date, mutual friends thought we would hit it off, so, I was told to look for a guy wearing a light pink polo shirt and a blue pair of jeans. I sat at the bar,ordered a drink and started to look around.Both the diner and bar were full,which was not at all surprising for the place on a Saturday evening.

I chose this place specific,just in case I needed to ditch the guy later. About ten minutes passed before I started to realize that this guy was late. Hmmm! Pink shirt,and you're late! Get it together man. I hate procrastinators, and I hate waiting.

After about a half an hour of waiting, this beautiful Man comes walking threw the door,wearing a light pink shirt. We make eye contact, he smiles,and then walks right pass me toward the men's room without a word...Okay!!!

Obviously not the guy. I start to become agitated with my friends who hooked this little thing up and decide to call my girlfriend. (Sasha) picks up after one ring, "where is this guy?" I asked her. She is Laughing her butt off on the other end. Confused,I ask again, "so whats up with your boy's friend?"

I am sitting here like an idiot and I am ready to leave. "Don't leave" she says, "he's in the bar watching you,scared and nervous to approach you."


WHAT??? I am looking around at this point thinking OH NO, this guy is going to be a weirdo! Well, what the hell does he look like? I ask. She tells me, "I told you, he's wearing a light pink shirt! Oh,and the name's Peter". At that exact moment Mr.Pink shirt beautiful man from earlier catches my eye. I hung up the phone pointed at him and mouthed Peter, He shook his head yes,and I made my way over to him.

The night was phenomenal,we hit it off and ended up spending the next few weeks together,before he needed to be sent back to Iraq. But, sometimes a night that starts off bad, does not always have to end that way. Peter taught me a valuable lesson too that night.

I looked unapproachable and intimidating to a date who had never laid eyes on me before. I hear beautiful woman say all the time how men don't approach them and it confuses them. Learn to remind yourself when you want to be approached, to look available,and not like your enjoying your own company. I had almost convinced myself before knowing this guy that he was going to be a jerk and because of that I almost missed out on his company,and that...would have been a bummer.

Peter and I are still great friends.

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